You may be surprised to learn that Christian marriages aren’t ending for the reasons you might think. Most divorces are precipitated by cheating or constant fighting over money. Though these issues are certainly present in Christian marriages, they aren’t the main culprit for why couples are divorcing.
The main reason Christian marriages end in divorce is due to the inability to forgive.
When disappointments occur, a couple has to be ready to deal with the issues and choose to forgive. Otherwise, bitterness wells up in the heart and casts a dark cloud over the marriage.
Colossians 3:13 Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.
The Bible commands us to forgive as Christ has forgiven us. Don’t let bitterness take up residence in your heart. Instead, choose to forgive your spouse for their failures so that you can’t begin to heal what is broken.
- Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
- What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
- Why do you think divorce is so prevalent these days?
- What does it say to you that Christians are divorcing at a high rate?
- How has unforgiveness affected your marriage?
- Read Colossians 3:13. Identify all the action steps mentioned. Why is each step important to understanding forgiveness?
- How can your ability to forgive help your marriage?
- Write a personal action step based on this conversation.
