There are 3 lists we use when deciding who to mentor. The first list is the hit list, this is the list of people you want to mentor. Second is the active list, this is the list of people you are currently mentoring. Lastly is the passive list, this is a list of those you have mentored who no longer need to be actively mentored. But how do you decide when to move someone over to that Passive List?

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Video Highlights:

  • The simplest time to move someone to the passive list is when they feel like they don’t need to meet with you regularly. The ultimate goal of mentoring is to have your mentee move on to mentor someone else. Once your mentee begins to mentor others they may feel as though meeting with you regularly is unnecessary. This is the biggest indicator that they are ready to move to your passive list.
  • Passive mentoring doesn’t mean you completely stop mentoring someone.When someone is on your passive list it doesn’t mean you no longer mentor them. You still meet with them, just less regularly. You still have to touch base with them to make sure things are going well.
  • One of the greatest joys of mentoring is helping someone understand the important issues. Whether these issues are about life or faith, it is an uplifting thing to be able to help someone see the truth. Understanding important issues is one of this biggest steps to help someone move towards the end of a mentoring relationship. It helps them to go on to mentor others.

Reaching the end of an active mentoring relationship can be a very bittersweet thing. Reaching the point where you can move a mentee to the passive list is similar to sending off your child once they turn 18. They are now ready to go out into the world on their own, or even begin their own mentoring relationships.

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Discussion Questions:

  1. Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
  2. What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
  3. Who are you actively mentoring right now? Are any of them ready to move onto your passive list? Why or why not?
  4. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.

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