Sex is an important part of a healthy marriage. That's why it's so important for pre-marital couples to be on the same page about past experiences, expectations, and ultimately God's purpose and design for sex.
Talking Points:
- If you have a sexual past, make sure you ask for forgiveness from your fiancee for sharing things with others that should have been saved for him/her. Repent before the Lord of past sins – God promises to forgive you and make you new. 2 Corinthians 5:17-19
- Sex can be challenging, especially for women. The point is to work together to fulfill the other. 1 Corinthians 7:3-4
- If you struggle, don’t be embarrassed to talk about it. Be honest about missed expectations and reasons for feeling unfulfilled.
Discussion Questions:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Have you already talked as a couple about your sexual history? How did it go?
- Are there unresolved issues surrounding this issue? Explain.
- Read 2 Corinthians 5:17-19. Why is it important to remember that you are a new creation in Christ? How should this impact the way you both look at the other’s past?
- Why is it important to have the right expectations regarding sex? What can happen if your expectations are very different from your fiance?
- Read 1 Corinthians 7:3-4. Why shouldn’t sex be based on lust? What do you think it looks like to prefer your partner’s needs above your own in the bedroom?
- Why is it important to continue to communicate about sex in your marriage?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
