One of the things that makes fatherhood difficult in our moment in history is the almost complete collapse of the sense of authority. Even the legitimate tenderhearted, unapologetic, fatherly authority in the home. A father who understands the Bible, who loves the Lord and has surrendered his life to Christ should not apologize for being the head of his home. Instead, he must accept the privilege of bearing the weight of authority in his home for the blessing of his wife and children.
We see authority in Jesus. In the upper room, Jesus says “you call me Master and Lord, and rightly so, for that is what I am.” He was very comfortable with his authority. Right before this statement, he had just gotten down and washed the feet of the disciples. That is authority. An awareness that God has placed me in his work in order to play a role that will make an impact forever. You are a father over these precious children and will be a grandfather someday. Authority must not be surrendered to the pervasive and corrosive self doubt of our times. Accept who God has called you to be and then serve in that.
- Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
- What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
- Read Mark 10:45 Jesus said he came to serve. Does this describe your leadership style?
- Does the word authority seem positive, neutral or negative?
- Comment on the statement that a father should never apologize for being the head of his home.
- How are authority and servanthood related? How are authority and love related?
- Does being the head of the home ever feel like a burden to you?
- In what ways could your family be blessed if you have authority in your home?
- Read John 13:12-17 What are some things you notice about authority? What are some practical things you could do to follow this example?
- Write a personal action step based on this conversation.
This topic is adapted from the Crossway YouTube channel.
