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Allen Parr shares practical advice to singles on what to do while waiting to find their spouse.
Key Points:
- Discover your purpose.
- Deal with your baggage.
- Make sure you are content.
- Make sure you are mature.
- Stay out of the bed.
- Men: guard the woman’s heart.
Quote This:
Ephesians 5:15-16 So be careful how you live. Don’t live like fools, but like those who are wise. Make the most of every opportunity in these evil days.
Talk About It
- What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Have you discovered some of God’s purposes for you specifically? What are they? How could they help or hinder your future relationship?
- “Baggage” refers to issues and challenges we bring into our relationships, whether financial struggles, personal struggles, a difficult past, or a myriad of other challenges that affect who we are. What is the baggage you’ve dealt with? What is baggage you are still working out? If you plan on a future relationship, what baggage will be a part of it?
- Have you ever dated someone who had unaddressed baggage? What happened?
- Allen asks: “Am I happy and content where I’m at right now as a single person?” How do you answer this question? Explain.
- Would you describe yourself as a mature person? In what ways are you mature? What are some growth areas for you?
- In what ways is sex a big temptation in our culture? What relationships you’ve seen have been damaged or ultimately destroyed by premarital sex? Explain.
- If you engaged in premarital sex, share some of the challenges you’ve faced because of those experiences as you are comfortable doing so.
- Have you ever been misled or burned by someone you thought was interested in you romantically, but turned out not to be? Or have you seen this happen to someone else? Share as you are comfortable.
- Write a personal action step based on this conversation.
