Seeking wisdom from an unbiased person can be helpful so long as you don't insert them into the conflict.
Talking Points:
- Healthy conflict happens when we deal directly with the person that has upset us but that doesn’t mean we can’t seek advice from someone on how to proceed.
- Wise wisdom means going to a person who is unbiased, doesn’t want to insert themselves into the conflict, and understands that their role is to help you formulate your thoughts.
- Wise wisdom is rooted in biblical truth, not based on feelings alone. Taking the emotion out of it, we can see more clearly all points of view and how best to respond. Proverbs 11:14
Discussion Questions:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Who is the wisest person you know? What sets them apart from others?
- Share a time you sought counsel from someone and they really helped you? How did you avoid the triangulation trap?
- Share a time you didn’t seek advice before heading into a conflict but wished you had. What went wrong and what could’ve been avoided with some wise counsel?
- Why does wise counsel need to be unbiased? What is likely to happen if you choose a biased person?
- Read Proverbs 11:14. Why is it helpful to have a direction before going into a conflict? Why is it best to go into that conflict considering all points of view?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
