Shame makes us think we are not capable of growth and change but God says we can.
Talking Points:
- The Lie of Shame: I am what I am. I can’t change. I’m hopeless.
- When we feel hopeless, we might make choices that reinforce those feelings of hopelessness. We might turn to substance abuse or other reckless choices because we want to numb the pain. We self sabotage because we have no hope for anything better.
- God’s answer to this lie is regeneration. Regeneration means new life. Regeneration is more than just making self improvements or cleaning up our acts. It’s a miraculous thing that God does in us. 2 Corinthians 5:17, Ezekiel 36:26-27
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Can you relate to the sentiment that you can’t ever really change? Explain.
- Why is true change hard to bring about? What are typical obstacles that get in your way from making true change?
- What are some other common ways people self sabotage when they feel worthless and hopeless? How have you self sabotaged in the past?
- Read 2 Corinthians 5:17. What does this verse say about our ability to change? Why is it significant that we are new creations in Christ?
- Read Ezekiel 36:26-27. What does this passage say about our ability to change? How does the Holy Spirit help us?
- Read Titus 3:4-7. This passage says we have a new birth in Christ. How should you view your past failings in light of these verses?
- Moving forward, how should you look at your past? What will you do with your feelings of shame and hopelessness?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
Adapted from the book The Search For Significance by Robert McGee
