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Why It’s Worth Saving Your Relationship from Sex

The Bible is clear: true followers of Jesus are called to flee from sexual immorality—including sex before marriage. That’s not just a command; it’s a pathway to deeper love, greater clarity, and long-term trust.

1 Corinthians 6:18 (NLT)
“Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.”

Whether you’re dating, engaged, or starting over, it’s never too late to hit “reset” and honor God with your relationship. Here’s why saving your relationship from sex might be the best thing you ever do:

  • Sex clouds your judgment. It creates a false sense of intimacy that can keep you from seeing each other clearly. True intimacy comes from emotional connection, not just physical closeness.

  • Sex doesn’t make her feel more loved. Saving your relationship from sex proves you care about her heart, not just her body. She’ll know you’re in it for something deeper.

  • Sex now affects trust later. Hebrews 13:4 reminds us that marriage is to be honored by all. Choosing purity today builds a foundation of faithfulness for tomorrow.

Hebrews 13:4 (NLT)
“Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.”

You don’t need a new relationship—just a new commitment. Start today.

Talking Points:
  • The Bible teaches that true followers of Jesus will flee from sexual immorality, and that includes sex before marriage. It’s never too late to hit “reset” on your relationship and commit to sexual purity. 1 Corinthians 6:18
  • Sex clouds your judgment and keeps you from true intimacy. When you save your relationship from sex, the fog will disappear and you’ll see each other for who you really are.
  • Saving your relationship from sex will make her feel more loved, not less. She’ll realize you’re into more than just her body.
  • When you save your relationship from sex you’ll establish yourself as a godly leader for the future. Marriage is filled with temptation, and now is the perfect time to start earning trust in the area of faithfulness. Hebrews 13:4
Discussion:
  1. Read the talking points above as a group, including scripture references. What are your initial thoughts about these points or about the podcast lesson (see audio above)?
  2. If you had to guess, how many unmarried Christians would you say are engaging in premarital sex? Do you think most of them know that it’s sin and don’t care – or are they unaware of what the Bible says?
  3. What are some of the factors in our broader culture that make this such a difficult topic to deal with?
  4. What are some of the common excuses couples give for why they choose to have premarital sex?
  5. In what ways can premarital sex cause us to be in a “fog”?
  6. Men: how can avoiding premarital sex set you on the right path as the spiritual leader within your marriage?
  7. How can saving yourself from sex now impact your ability to trust each other later in the area of sexual faithfulness?
  8. Read Hebrews 13:4. What can you do to protect your relationship from premarital sex, even if you’ve messed up in the past?

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