Talking Points:
  • Premarital sex is often considered “God’s dumbest rule”. It seems to be the simplest and least sinful of all the sexual sins. But sin is sin, and premarital sex is just as wrong as every other sin.
  • Lie #1: Only certain types of sex are sinful.
  • Lie #2: Body count matters.
  • Lie #3: Sex has no consequences.
  • Lie #4: Saving yourself for marriage is a joke.
  • Lie #5: I’m worthless if I’ve already crossed the line.

Premarital sex is a controversial topic often debated based on personal beliefs and religious views. Some people argue that sex is no big deal and should be freely explored, while others consider it a sin against God’s plan. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 states that sexual immorality is a sin against one’s own body, as we are temples of the Holy Spirit. However, society often normalizes premarital sex, making those who abstain seem strange.

Lie #1: Only certain types of sex are sinful

The enemy spreads lies about sex, leading people to believe that only specific acts are sinful. However, any sexual activity outside of marriage is considered premarital sex, meaning it is sinful. The focus should be on honoring God and His design for sex, rather than finding ways to get close to the line of sin.

Lie #2: Body count matters

Another lie perpetuated is that the “body count,” the number of sexual partners one has, matters. However, the Bible says that sex should be confined within marriage. Engaging in multiple sexual relationships leads to emotional and psychological consequences, hindering the ability to form deep connections with your future spouse.

Lie #3: Sex has no consequences

The notion that premarital sex has no consequences is false. God created sex for marriage, and engaging in it outside of that context can lead to various issues, including mental health problems like anxiety and depression. It also hampers the ability to form a fulfilling and trusting relationship with a future spouse, as comparisons to past partners will arise.

Lie #4: Saving yourself is a joke

Saving oneself for marriage is not easy in a society that often mocks those who choose abstinence. However, it is an honorable decision that not only benefits your future spouse but also pleases God. It requires discipline and strength to resist societal pressures and maintain purity.

Lie #5: I’m worthless if I’ve already crossed the line

If someone has already engaged in premarital sex, they need not feel worthless or condemned. The story of the adulterous woman in John 8:3-11 teaches that Jesus came to redeem, not condemn. Repentance and a commitment to sin no more can restore purity in God’s eyes.

To avoid premarital sex, setting boundaries in dating and surrounding oneself with supportive friends and mentors can be helpful. Being mindful of the situations one puts themselves in and avoiding temptations is essential in maintaining abstinence.

The Takeaway

In conclusion, it is essential to challenge the lies perpetuated about sex and recognize the consequences it may bring. Choosing abstinence requires strength and determination, but it can lead to a more fulfilling and God-honoring future relationship. For those who have already engaged in premarital sex, there is hope in repentance and a fresh start with God’s forgiveness. Ultimately, understanding and following God’s plan for sex within marriage is essential to honor Him and maintain emotional and spiritual well-being.

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Discussion:
  1. In the context of religious teachings, how does the concept of our bodies being temples of the Holy Spirit impact your understanding of premarital sex as a sin against one’s own body?
  2. The discussion highlights the consequences of engaging in premarital sex, both emotionally and spiritually. How do you think society’s views on sex influence the perception of these consequences?
  3. Lie #2 discusses the concept of “body count” and how it may impact relationships and self-worth. How can we promote a healthier understanding of sexuality and relationships in our culture?
  4. Lie #4 states that saving oneself for marriage is not always easy and can lead to insecurity or judgment from others. How can individuals facing societal pressure maintain their commitment to abstinence and find strength in their decision?
  5. Read John 8:3-11. The story of the adulterous woman provides an important lesson about redemption and forgiveness. How can this narrative be applied to those who have already engaged in premarital sex, and how might they find healing and renewal in their faith journey?

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