Our words are powerful and they have the ability to either bring healing or destruction to our relationships.

Talking Points:

  • Our words have power. They can either bring healing or destruction to our relationships. Proverbs 16:23-24,28
  • Don’t react, think before you speak. Our first reactions are often misguided and lead us to make regrettable choices. James 3:8-10
  • We can choose to be productive, not destructive with our words. Choosing our words wisely will actually add value to our relationships. Remember the acronym THINK. Is it true? Is it Helpful? Is it Inspiring? Is it Necessary? Is it Kind? 
Discussion:
  1. Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Share a time someone’s words really encouraged you. Share a time someone’s words really hurt you.
  3. Read Proverbs 16:23-24, 28. Identify everything this passage says about words. Why do you think the writer chose to use honey for kind words? What do you think of when you hear the word “scoundrel”?
  4. Read James 3:8-10. How have you seen negativity or harsh words ruin relationships like a destructive blaze?
  5. Why is it important to think before we react? Share a time you reacted in a moment and later regretted your words and actions. What would have been a better way to handle it?
  6. Read Psalm 19:14. When you’re angry or hurt, what is often the condition of your heart in that moment? How could remembering that God knows everything you think and feel serve as a protective measure for you?
  7. Why is it important to acknowledge our motives in wanting to confront someone? What motivations can get us into trouble? What motivations can help us to be productive?
  8. Why is being critical and judgemental a bad tone to set in any conversation? How do you feel when people are critical of you?
  9. Take a few minutes to discuss the THINK acronym and how it can help to prepare you for your next difficult conversation.
  10. Read Ephesians 4:29. How does this verse challenge you? How will you apply this to your life?
  11. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?

 

 

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