Expressing love for your spouse isn’t limited to words or buying gifts. Sometimes, the greatest expression of love is in your actions.
Talking Points:
- Acts of Service is all about doing things for someone whether it’s a project around the house, running an errand, or giving a back rub. This language is very common for men as they tend to like to take action and conquer a task.
- The key is to find out the tasks that make the most impact on your spouse and focus on those. Even though this may be your language as well, don’t assume that your spouse has the same priorities. 1 Peter 4:10
- In whatever you do, this language is all about seeing love in action. You don’t have to be a professional painter or chef. Just look to serve your spouse in the ways that really matter to them and do it to the best of your ability.
- If this is your language, but not your spouse’s, guard against becoming bitter that you work hard and do a lot but your spouse doesn’t seem to notice or care. Remember, the reason is probably that your spouse’s primary language isn’t Acts of Service. So, make sure to learn their language and speak it fluently.
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Think of a time your spouse did something for you that meant a lot at the time. Why did that mean so much to you?
- Read 1 Peter 4:10. Why are actions important to expressing genuine love?
- In what ways would you say you currently serve your spouse? Identify the ways your spouse tries to serve you?
- How do you show appreciation for the ways your spouse tries to serve you? How can you improve?
- Identify some areas where you would love more help from your spouse. What’s a productive way to express those needs to one another?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
Adapted from the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
