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It's easy to lose hope when you desperately want a child and it's just not happening. But there are things you can cling to that can change your perspective.
Key Points:
- Infertility can devour your marriage. Couples who struggle with infertility or miscarriage are three times more likely to divorce!
- It may be hard, but you must work not to fixate on your lack of one blessing while forgetting the multitude of other blessings you have.
- God is sovereign in all ways and everything good comes from him (James 1:17). Be honest with your grief and share it with others
- Recognize that God may be denying you physical children because he has other plans for your marriage, such as adoption, fostering, missions, or something else.
Quote This:
1 Samuel 1:8 “Why are you crying, Hannah?” Elkanah would ask. “Why aren’t you eating? Why be downhearted just because you have no children? You have me—isn’t that better than having ten sons?”
Talk About It
- What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Are you now or have you struggled with infertility or miscarriages? Explain.
- Read 1 Samuel 1:11. Have you made any bargains with God like Hannah did?
- How has your marriage been affected by infertility up to now? How well are you doing at communicating your sadness as a couple?
- Why do you think there is a higher divorce rate amongst couples who are not able to bring a child to term?
- Read James 1:17. What are some of the blessings you can count every day? How can focusing on those things help you to deal with your disappointments with infertility?
- Who are some people who can help you deal with the challenges of infertility?
- Are you open to the idea of adoption or fostering? Why or why not?
- Write a personal action step based on this conversation.
