How can you forgive someone after they've done something that is unforgivable to you? Believe it or not, the answer to this question requires an understanding of the word "torture".
Talking Points:
- Every time you refuse to forgive someone, you’re only hurting yourself. Your bitterness puts you in chains, not the other person.
- If you want the other person to feel the effects of his or her sin, you need to forgive. Only then are you released from your chains, and you leave it in God’s hands to deal with the offender. Romans 12:19-20
- There’s no better way to understand forgiveness than to look to the cross. Jesus was tortured for our sins. He went to the cross in our place so that we could be forgiven. Luke 23:34
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Give an example of when your inability to forgive was torture to you. Why was it not hurtful to the person who offended you?
- Read Romans 12:19-20. According to this verse, why should we not avenge ourselves? On a scale of 1-10, how difficult is that for you- to trust God’s justice over your revenge? Explain.
- Describe a time when someone forgave you. How did it affect you?
- Read Luke 23:34. Jesus extended forgiveness to his murderers. Could you have done that? Explain. How does understanding Jesus’ forgiveness for us challenge your ability to forgive others?
- Are you hanging onto bitterness with your spouse? What do you need to do to release yourself?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
