Breakups are hard but advance preparation can go a long way in minimizing the damage.
Key Points:
- Make sure you really want to break up.
- Figure out what you’re going to say. Write down your thoughts so they are clear to you.
- Plan out a specific time to have the conversation. You don’t want to be in this conversation for hours.
- Make plans for right after the conversation so you have a valid reason of why you need to end the conversation and move on.
- Have the conversation. Be brave. Be kind. Be honest.
- When it’s over, it’s over. Don’t make plans to talk later. Make the clean break.
- Make the stuff exchange. If you have a sweatshirt of theirs, give it to a friend to give it back.
Talk About It
- What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Share breakup story you know of. Did it go well or was it a disaster? Explain.
- Read 2 Corinthians 6:14-15. Why is it problematic for Christians to date unbelievers?
- For Christians, what are some guidelines for deciding if you should even date someone in the first place?
- List some of the reasons breakups are hard.
- Why is it important to go into a breakup conversation with a plan? What usually happens if you start a conversation without knowing where you’re going?
- What are some things you should not say in breakup conversation?
- How can you be honest yet kind when breaking off a relationship?
- Why is it important to not leave a door open to a future with that person? What is likely to happen if you do?
- Write a personal action step based on this conversation.
