Divorce can leave you feeling distraught and lost. Learn some insights that can help you survive this difficult time.
Talking Points:
- For Sally, divorce was a long process of almost seven years. As a Christian, Sally wanted to save her marriage. She didn’t want to be another divorce statistic. Even though Sally wanted to reconcile, she recognized that she couldn’t fight for the marriage alone.
- Sally spent a lot of time in counseling and meeting with a Christian mentor to identify the areas where she needed to take ownership of some of her failures in the relationship. Instead of just focusing on her spouse’s faults, she took a long look at herself.
- Sally also learned about grace. She learned that God’s grace was big enough to cover any of her mistakes. She learned that she needed to extend grace to her ex and to others. She learned to appreciate that even though she didn’t agree with her ex husband’s perspective, she understood that he had his own opinions as to why the marriage failed. All of this helped Sally to release bitterness, which allowed her to move forward.
- Sally also learned that God was there with her every step of the way. He was present with her in her pain and provided many miracles along the way. In the end, God brought another man into her life.
Talk About It
- Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
- What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
- What’s your experience with divorce? How has divorce affected you or the people around you?
- Do you relate to Sally’s story and how she tried to fight to save the marriage? Explain.
- In your opinion, why can’t one person save the marriage?
- What is some of the emotional baggage you are still carrying around from the divorce? How has that impeded you from moving forward? How can you start to let that stuff go?
- Read Colossians 3:12-13. What does this passage challenge you to do in relationship with your ex? Why is forgiveness an important part to healing?
- How have you seen God provide for you during your separation/divorce?
- Write a personal action step based on this conversation.
