Sex was never supposed to be a selfish pursuit seeing your partner as a tool to be used for self gratification.
Talking Points:
- It’s easy to get confused about what sex is supposed to be when you’re married to an addict. Sex isn’t supposed to be selfish rather it should be an act of selfless love.
- The Bible clearly outlines that sex is about joining two people as one. It’s meant to be about creating a bond, not taking from the other to fulfill your own desires. Genesis 2:24
- A sex addiction is a progressive intimacy disorder characterized by increasingly pervasive sexual thoughts and acts that create turmoil and pain.
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- How would you characterize your view of sex (free and easy, complicated and guarded or somewhere in between)? Explain.
- What were your expectations of sex in your marriage based on your family history and your personal history?
- Read Genesis 2:24. What do you think it means to be one with your spouse? Do you feel like you are one with him today? Explain.
- How would you characterize your sex life with your spouse right now- selfish endeavor or shared intimate experience? Has this changed over time?
- Does/has your spouse asked you to do things in the bedroom that make you feel uncomfortable? Explain. How have you responded to those requests up to now?
- Based on the definition provided, do you feel like your spouse has a sex addiction? Explain. How long would you say this has been an issue?
- What do you think of the idea that a sex addiction is an issue in your spouse which has nothing to do with you? How can understanding this help you?
- Read 2 Corinthians 5:17. Women often struggle with not being ‘enough’ to satisfy their spouse (due to weight issues, body image, comparisons, etc.), Do you believe that only God can show us our identity and our worth? Explain.
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
