Just like personality types or love languages, we all tend toward a particular attachment type. Being aware of your "type" helps you identify your default tendencies in times of stress and conflict.
Talking Points:
- Secure – Low avoidance and low anxiety. This person tends to create strong bonds with others and doesn’t fear failure.
- Avoidant – High avoidance and low anxiety. This person doesn’t create a lot of close relationships and prefers to work alone.
- Anxious – Low avoidance and high anxiety. This person wants to be accepted by others and doesn’t like to go solo on anything.
- Disordered – High avoidance and high anxiety. This person tends to switch between anxious and avoidant.
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- What do you guess is your attachment type? What do you guess is your spouse’s attachment type? Explain.
- What kind of environment did you grow up in and how did you relate to your parental figures? How do you see that affecting you today?
- How has your attachment type positively affected your marriage? How has it negatively affected your marriage?
- Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. Identify what love looks like in practice. How can the quality of your love for your spouse grow as you remember their attachment type?
- How can you utilize this information the next time you face stress in your marriage?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
