Marriage is a big deal, not to be taken lightly. How do you know if you're ready to get married?
Talking Points:
- Getting married is a big step. There are some important questions you should ask yourself before making this decision.
- Ask yourself, “Am I a trustworthy person?” You need to prove your trustworthiness to your significant other and they need to earn your trust, too. Without trust, your marriage can’t be healthy. Proverbs 25:19
- Ask yourself, “Am I ready for a life-long commitment?” The Bible regards marriage as a lifelong commitment and the only thing that should end a marriage is death. Matthew 19:4-6
- Ask yourself, “How is my relationship with God?” The most important relationship in your life is your relationship with God, which in turn affects every other relationship in your life. First, take time to figure out what God wants for your life and what it means to be a follower of Jesus.
- Ask yourself, “Am I free to get married?”According to the Bible not everyone is free to get married, especially in instances such as divorce. Before deciding to get married again look at what the Bible has to say about divorce and then speak with another Christian about it; preferably someone older and wiser. Some Bible verses to look at are 1 Corinthians 7 and Matthew 5:31-32. Consider your decision carefully before committing to marriage again.
Discussion Questions:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Describe an actual marriage (not fictionalized like in television or movies) that you would you most like to emulate? What makes it noteworthy?
- On a scale of 1 to 10 how trustworthy would your friends say you are? Explain. Why is trust necessary for a healthy marriage?
- Read Matthew 19:5-6. Are you ready to commit to God’s standard of marriage? How will you keep this level of unity in your relationship?
- Why is it important to be strong in your relationship with God before marriage?
- What is one area of your life you would like to improve before you get married? (i.e. a character quality like developing integrity, or a habit like budgeting well.)
- Read 1 Corinthians 7 and Matthew. 5:31-32. What do these passages teach you about getting remarried? Are you submitting to God’s will in remarriage?
- List the reasons for and against getting married at this stage of your life and discuss your answers with a mentor.
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
