Porn is a destructive force that destroys intimacy in marriage.
Talking Points:
- Pornography programs us for instant gratification and steers us away from an intimate relationship with our spouse.
- We program ourselves to respond the way we do to pornography. It is not “just how we are.” We teach ourselves over time to adopt habits and addictions, like those to pornography.
- The good news is that no matter how bad our addiction to pornography has been, we can reprogram ourselves not to use it. The challenge is that it will take an equal amount of time and effort to reprogram ourselves as it did to program us. 1 John 1:9, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Have you ever struggled with pornography while married? Why do you think you struggled with it or are struggling with it? Share as you are comfortable.
- When and how did your use of/addiction to pornography start?
- How has intimacy with your spouse been affected by your use of pornography? Explain.
- Read 1 John 1:9. What’s your job in regard to your sin? What is God’s job? Do you have some things to confess to your spouse as well?
- Read 1 Corinthians 6:18-20. How can you start “reprogramming” yourself away from pornography? List at least one practical step you can start today.
- Who are some people in your life you can turn to for help getting out from under this addiction?
- What other action steps must you take this week? This month? This year?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
This topic is adapted from the BiolaUniversity YouTube channel. Written content for this topic by Daniel Martin.
