Unmet expectations can destroy a marriage. Become aware of yours so you can help your spouse know and understand them, too.
Talking Points:
- Be aware of your expectations. Looking at your experiences and identifying things that were expectations in your household growing up is a good first step.
- Discuss your expectations. Your spouse does not and will never have the ability to read your mind. If you do not actually sit down and talk about your expectations, they won’t understand an area where they are failing you.
- Lower your expectations. Your spouse isn’t perfect and they will make mistakes. Make sure that you don’t expect the impossible! 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- What are some expectations you have or had regarding your marriage/spouse? Where did those expectations come from?
- What are some unrealistic expectations you have for yourself in marriage? For your spouse?
- What are some ways you can start a productive conversation about expectations with your spouse?
- Who are some members of your community or family who you can lean on for support and relationship?
- Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. What does this passage say about how you should love your spouse? How does this passage challenge you on how you should respond to missed expectations?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
This topic is adapted from the Biola University YouTube channel.
