Watch the video above and talk about it with a group or mentor. Learn more.
How do you know if you’re married to the right person? You’re married to them.
How do you know if you’re married to the right person? You’re married to them.
Talking Points:
- Before we get married, we evaluate potential partners’ qualifications for a spouse. Do we get along with them? What field of work are they in? Are they following Christ 1 Corinthians 7:39?
- After we get married, there is one qualification for being a spouse: you are married. This counts even if your spouse is an unbeliever. 1 Corinthians 7:10-16
In marriage, God acts by creating a bond that is not to be broken by people (Genesis 2:23-24). Marriage is a metaphor for Christ and the church – he will never leave us or forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). And your spouse is the only person with whom you can truly demonstrate the covenant faithfulness of Christ and his church.
Discussion Questions:
- Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
- What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
- What are the current struggles in your marriage that might cause you to question if you’re compatible?
- What are the dangers to pondering such a question?
- John Piper provides a theological argument for why married Christians should not divorce: it’s a mirror or metaphor for Christ and the church, and Jesus will never leave us or forsake us. Explain why you do or do not find this convincing.
- Read 1 Corinthians 7:39. Why is it important to seek a spouse who shares your beliefs?
- Read 1 Corinthians 7:10-16. Why is it important to remain married even if you have come to follow Jesus Christ after you were married?
- What are some ways you can remind yourself that you’re married to the right person?
- Write a personal action step based on this conversation.
